Reading a book or watching videos can definitely help, but some things are very hard to learn without person-to-person interaction. This is especially true with regard to our inner emotional lives. It’s sort of like having a tennis coach or golf coach who can spot a problem in your swing and then immediately correct it. It’s impossible to get that kind of feedback from a book or video. There’s also such a thing as inner role modeling. When you’re with a teacher or peer and you see how they handle a particularly difficult emotion or situation, something that you’ve been unable to handle before, your body and mind “picks up” what they’re doing. And suddenly you can do the same thing.
If you stopped your addiction today, it’s highly likely you’d still have much healing work to do. In fact, even if you stopped, without certain skills and support in place, you’re highly likely to relapse (which is normal and expected during recovery). And even if you don’t relapse, the inner patterns that drive your addiction will likely manifest in some other way, such as anxiety, depression or an addiction to something else. Like I said above, my program is all about building up a strong foundation for your ongoing healing. This in turn will give you an ability, sooner or later, to stop (or grow out of) your addiction. That said, I cannot promise that you will stop your behavior. That’s always up to you. If you do need to stop immediately, perhaps because there is too much harm being done, I recommend that you work with a therapist or another program that helps you hold your strong commitment to abstinence. My program complements such programs quite well.
Yes. There are over 80 research studies demonstrating the effectiveness of Focusing. You can find a summary here.
Additionally, the creators of some well known therapies such as Somatic Experiencing and Emotion Focused Therapy openly acknowledge that their methodologies rely on Focusing as a foundation. The later, Emotion Focused Therapy, is backed by multiple randomized trials and has the highest success rate among all couples therapies.
It’s called Focusing. I don’t like using the name because it confuses people. It’s not about concentration, which is what people typically understand the word “focusing” to mean. The name “Focusing” comes from the person who created the system, Dr. Eugene Gendlin. He was a psychologist and philosopher who taught at the University of Chicago. His system, callend Focusing, is used by thousands of therapists around the world.
Focusing is not a form of meditation. It is an engaged process of self-exploration and self-healing.
It does share elements of quietness, acceptance, and present moment awareness, especially body awareness, but it is more than these. Focusing guides us to cultivate a new kind of relationship with our thoughts and emotions. In doing so, stuck patterns shift. We gain surprising and meaningful information about ourselves. There’s a strong sense of inner resolution and moving forward.
Share as much or as little as you like. You do not need to share anything. The skills and tools you learn work regardless. If you have dark secrets, our work together is likely to change how you feel about them, even if you never talk about them.
Absolutely. While you are not required to share any details about your life, if you do, I am committed to holding them in strict confidentiality.
Yes. If within the first four sessions you feel we are not a good fit, I will happily release you from the full program. You would only need to pay for the four sessions on a prorated basis.
If you’re interested in the Beyond Addiction Program, please schedule your free consultation below. In the session, I’ll explain more about the program, and we’ll be able to determine if we are a good fit for working together.